As a global loneliness thought leader,
Phil is here to reconnect you and all diplomats and those living the diplomatic life to themselves and to the world around them.
tackling workplace loneliness
You've heard how Phil speaks about loneliness and how it's experienced by diplomats and those living the diplomatic life.
You know that he is passionate about speaking about the loneliness experience because he experienced loneliness while being a posted diplomat and an accompanying significant other.
People stop and listen when Phil speaks on loneliness and the loneliness experience.
Phil has developed 'Tackling Workplace Loneliness': a program that tackles a significant cause of disengagement, stress, burnout and absence.
Have Phil support you and your workplace.
Phil is an engaging and affable speaker who makes loneliness relatable for audiences. The way that Phil talks about loneliness and how it's experienced by diplomats and those living the diplomatic life makes them feel seen and heard.
Thousands of people globally have benefited from Phil's written and spoken words on loneliness, connection and the highs and lows of the diplomatic life.
Have Phil speak on your podcast, to your organisation or workplace.
Have Phil guide you through your loneliness towards the connection you seek as you live your diplomatic life via your bespoke Connection Plan.
Phil can also help you get clarity on your values and how you can live your diplomatic life in alignment with them through your Diplomatic Life Plan.
the lonely diplomat podcast
Join Phil and his guests for a real conversation about the highs and lows of this diplomatic life.
Each episode serves, supports, challenges and inspires you to not only be great at your job, but to allow yourself to be the awesome human you are.
The podcast is proudly recorded, edited and uploaded on Ngunnawal Country. It's heard by thousands of people globally.
the lonely diplomat book
Using Phil's personal experience and The Lonely Diplomat's five central themes, Phil's book helps diplomats and those living the diplomatic life to put their awesome selves into the world.
Available at amazon.com in paperback and e-book.
Hello, I'm Phil McAuliffe and I'm The Lonely Diplomat.
The Lonely Diplomat is the place for you if you love what you do and you're proud of the contribution you make to your country and its relationship with the world.
While you're proud of what you do, you're tired of the ceaseless competition to get ahead. You're tired of the relentless demands that test your resilience. You've realised that you know many people but no one knows you. You've realised that beyond what you do for your work, you may not even know who you are.
You're in the right place to get the advice, support and encouragement you need to be awesomely and humanly you.
Let's get you reconnected to yourself so you can be a happier human AND an amazing diplomat.
Phil shared some of his story of loneliness and the wisdom he gained from it on SBS' Insight program on Tuesday 6 June 2023.
Phil's loneliness story and reasons for starting The Lonely Diplomat and The Loneliness Guy featured on the ABC Story Stream on Monday 6 February 2023
Phil and his work featured on the ABC (Australian Broadcasting Corporation) News website on 12 January 2023
Phil participated on The Roundtable with other loneliness experts. The Roundtable is a show on the Australian Broadcasting Corporation's Radio National every Sunday. Guests: Alana Officer, Head World Health Organisation Demographic Change and Healthy Ageing Unit Dr Michelle Lim, Clinical Psychologist, Chief Scientific Advisor, Ending Loneliness Together Phil McAuliffe, Creator, The Lonely Diplomat website
Listen to my chat with the amazing Amel Derragui from www.tandemnomads.com
Read 'For diplomats who feel uprooted: a website to call home' "Meet diplomacy’s new spokesperson, champion and interpreter, a k a the Lonely Diplomat."
the lonely diplomat blog
upcoming speaking events
Phil will be a keynote speaker at the Hull International Conference on Loneliness - The Search for Belonging on Tuesday 27 June 2023.
Hosted by MyBabble, the conference will be held in Hull (UK) and will focus on destigmatising loneliness and searching for belonging.
Phil will be joining other expert speakers working to reduce loneliness, including Dr. Adrian James (President of the Royal College of Psychiatrists).
Conference details (including agenda and how to get tickets) here.
MyBabble’s aim is to create connections and nurture conversations between people, in a bid to provide opportunities to connect using technology.
previous speaking events
On Tuesday 7 March 2023, Phil shared his experience of loneliness and speaking on workplace loneliness and the loneliness experienced by LGBTIQA+ humans in society as part of a panel discussion to an internal audience of Medibank employees.
Phil was a panel member alongside Dr Michelle Lim (Scientific Chair and Chairperson Ending Loneliness Together) and Ms Liz Keen (Executive Producer – Audio from Headline Productions).
Medibank has a 10-year strategy on addressing loneliness and is raising awareness of loneliness as a key health issue in Australia. It’s collaborating to understand the most effective, evidence-based solutions to address loneliness and its impacts on health.
Ending Loneliness Together hosted a members-only webinar featuring Prof. Manuela Barreto from the University of Exeter in the UK.
Phil's spoke in his capacity of being a member of Ending Loneliness Together's Lived Experience Advisory Panel about his experience with the inadequacies of the language of loneliness.
English is a wonderful language and Phil uses it well. However, Phil says that the language is ill-equipped for conversations about loneliness. As a result, we must learn to listen for what people experiencing loneliness don't say as much as what they do say.
Phil's here to help us learn how to speak about our loneliness.
"Wonderful conversation, Phil. Insightful and eloquent. Thank you for being part of this national movement." - Dr Michelle Lim - Scientific Chair and Chairperson Ending Loneliness Together -
13 December 2022
Phil spoke at the Canadian Human Connection Conference on: 'The courage it takes to come out as gay and as lonely: disrupting gay loneliness and reconstructing perceptions of connection in the community.'
See Phil's presentation here.
The event was hosted by the Genwell Project and the Institute for Social Connection.
Feedback: 'The highlight of the day was Phil saying that by speaking about loneliness we normalize it. I've never though of it that way before.'
Thank you to all involved for the opportunity to connect with others working on loneliness in Canada.
Phil is a member of Ending Loneliness Together's Lived Experience Advisory Panel.
Phil shared some of his personal loneliness story at the launch of the Strengthening Social Connection to Accelerate Social Recovery White Paper. The event was held at Parliament House in Canberra and was hosted by the Parliamentary Friends of Ending Loneliness Together.
Phil shared the speaker's stage with leading global loneliness experts, including Dr Michelle Lim (Chair, Ending Loneliness Together), Dr Vivek Murthy (US Surgeon-General) and Dr Etienne Krug (World Health Organisation).
Thank you to Ending Loneliness Together for the wonderful opportunity.
Read Phil's speech here.
how Phil supports people
people just like you
I can attest to just how welcome, safe and seen Phil makes others feel. Phil has an incredible ability to pick up on what is being said (and sometimes more importantly, the things that are not being said) and ask just the right questions to challenge your thinking and lead you to discover and bring to light the important things that are lingering just outside your consciousness.
Phil's support and guidance has helped me discover a love for myself beyond what I thought was possible and in turn deepened my relationships with others. I would encourage anyone considering his services to get in contact with Phil and find out first hand how life changing working with him can be.
Received June 2022