The Lonely Diplomat: on being interesting
Let's explore how we diplomats and those living the diplomatic life cope with being interesting to other governments and how these copin
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Phil McAuliffe
- Jul 5, 2019
- 8 min
On leaving diplomacy
You may be feeling that it's time to leave the diplomatic world and try something else. But what could you do? Where do you start? Read
Phil McAuliffe
- Jun 22, 2019
- 9 min
The Lonely Diplomat: on friendship
Friendships are a vital source of human connection. This post explores the challenges of making and keeping friends when living the diplomat
Phil McAuliffe
- Jun 8, 2019
- 10 min
On being a male diplomatic spouse
This post explores issues of disconnection, loss of career progression and the isolation experienced by some male diplomatic spouses.
Phil McAuliffe
- May 25, 2019
- 7 min
The Lonely Diplomat: on mid-life crises
The thoughts and feelings that herald a mid-life crisis can strike you where you are, whoever you are. It's tempting to ignore them, but
Phil McAuliffe
- May 11, 2019
- 7 min
The Lonely Diplomat: an invitation to our bosses
I write these words because I'm worried. I write these words to you to start a kind and honest conversation about how we can work togeth
Phil McAuliffe
- Apr 27, 2019
- 9 min
'Finally, I can eat garlic!' Life as a diplomat's daughter
How can growing up as the child of a diplomat affect how our children view themselves and their world?
Phil McAuliffe
- Apr 13, 2019
- 10 min
The Lonely Diplomat: on resilience - part 2
Let's talk about the 'big' resilience and
'little' resilience we need to do our jobs, shall we?
Phil McAuliffe
- Mar 30, 2019
- 10 min
The Lonely Diplomat: on fitness
We must have some physical movement in our days so we remain physically, emotionally and mentally healthy and connected to ourselves. Can we
Phil McAuliffe
- Mar 16, 2019
- 9 min
The Lonely Diplomat: on home
Having many places to call home as a diplomat is both a blessing and a curse. It tests our resilience and our connection with others. Where,
Phil McAuliffe
- Mar 2, 2019
- 9 min
The Lonely Diplomat: on the stories we tell ourselves
We are all fantastic story creators. The stories we tell ourselves can become our truths. They are powerful. We accept them as fact. They ca
Phil McAuliffe
- Feb 16, 2019
- 11 min
Diplomatic spouses of the world, unite!
Call me a trailing spouse and I will politely put you in a headlock and rearrange your pretty diplomat face to the point that you’ll need yo
Phil McAuliffe
- Feb 2, 2019
- 9 min
The Lonely Diplomat: on being 'on' - part one
We can never give our personal view. We can never trust that something said privately will stay private. We are always on. Always. What does
Phil McAuliffe
- Jan 19, 2019
- 14 min
On loneliness
Hi, my name's Phil and I'm the Lonely Diplomat. This is my story of my descent into loneliness and my way back.
Phil McAuliffe
- Jan 5, 2019
- 9 min
Say what you mean. Mean what you say.
Stop being diplomatic. Sometimes you actually need to say what you mean and mean what you say.
Phil McAuliffe
- Dec 15, 2018
- 9 min
The Lonely Diplomat: on Christmas
It is the season of goodwill to all and a time to be with family and friends. What is it about the festive season that can have us feeling h
Phil McAuliffe
- Dec 1, 2018
- 9 min
Stop glorifying exhaustion
Might there be more to that exhaustion you're feeling? There's a strong link between exhaustion and burnout with loneliness
Phil McAuliffe
- Nov 17, 2018
- 8 min
Why are you so scared?
Why are you scared of not pleasing people? When did you become so scared? What would you do if you weren't scared?
Phil McAuliffe
- Nov 3, 2018
- 7 min
On competitive stories
We diplomats can be compulsive and competitive story-tellers when we get together. Why is this?
Phil McAuliffe
- Oct 20, 2018
- 9 min
Love and diplomacy
We love what we do, but we don't do it alone. We bring our significant others and our families along for the ride - or not.
Phil McAuliffe
- Oct 6, 2018
- 10 min
On our inner critics
Our inner critics can be horrible to us. We live with them all the time.
Let me introduce you to mine, Joe.
Phil McAuliffe
- Sep 22, 2018
- 8 min
Are you a resilient diplomat?
Many of us mid-career diplomats are no longer resilient. We're broken.
Phil McAuliffe
- Sep 15, 2018
- 6 min
The price of being a diplomat
This diplomatic life comes at a price.
Sooner or later we all must pay.
Phil McAuliffe
- Sep 8, 2018
- 8 min
Are you using social media, or is it using you?
For diplomats, social media is a powerful tool for connection. Using it can feel like connection, but it is not connection.
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