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No one else writes about the highs and lows of this diplomatic life from both the perspective of the posted diplomat AND the accompanying significant other like the lonely diplomat.
Read one, two - or binge them all - of the articles to be supported, challenged and inspired through Phil's lived experience, wisdom and insight.
They're all here for you as you live your diplomatic life and want to reconnect with yourself and the world around you.
You're not alone.
Mindfulness and you
Let's explore how mindfulness can help the stressed and busy diplomat with these words from my friend, Jase Te Patu.
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Feb 15, 20207 min read
On anxiety and being a diplomat
Let's have a kind and honest conversation about mental illness and mental health and well-being in diplomacy that moves beyond platitudes.
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Jan 25, 20209 min read
Setting up a portable business as a diplomatic spouse
Amel Derragui shares her reasons why setting up a globally portable business can help diplomatic spouses.
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Jan 11, 20208 min read
The Lonely Diplomat: on competition
Our diplomatic lives can be dominated by competition. What can this do to us?
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 30, 20199 min read
On being gay and living a diplomatic life
Let's explore what can it mean to be a same-sex couple who is living their diplomatic life.
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 2, 201911 min read
Loneliness and the absence of real connection
Loneliness often gets confused with being alone, but they're very different. Read Vaughan Carder's reflections on loneliness he shar
Phil McAuliffe
Oct 5, 20198 min read
'What will people think?' must end
'What will people think?' silences innovation. Here's how to challenge it and work through fear.
Phil McAuliffe
Sep 7, 20198 min read
Find balance to avoid burnout
You must find a balance that works for you if you are to avoid burning out
Phil McAuliffe
Aug 10, 201912 min read
Your life under a microscope
What you know is valuable. People want to know what you know. What you say, do and think is interesting. This is not a normal way to live.
Phil McAuliffe
Jul 20, 20196 min read
On leaving diplomacy
There's nothing like a career in diplomacy. It's tough to leave. What if it's time to do something else?
Angela Pickett
Jul 6, 20198 min read
Friendship and diplomacy
Making friends and maintaining friendships can be tough when living the diplomatic life.
Phil McAuliffe
Jun 23, 20199 min read
On being a male diplomatic spouse
'My reference point for others was suddenly not to me, it was to my female spouse.'
Simon
Jun 9, 201911 min read
Thrive through your mid-life crisis
Resist the sportscar, the affair or dramatic career change. Welcome your mid-life crisis and thrive.
Phil McAuliffe
May 26, 20198 min read
A clarion call to the leaders of diplomacy
I've a clear message for the leaders of diplomacy: your diplomats are struggling.
Phil McAuliffe
May 12, 20197 min read
'Finally, I can eat garlic!' Life as a diplomat's daughter
How can growing up as the child of a diplomat affect how our children view themselves and their world?
Jaqueline Benndorf
Apr 28, 20199 min read
'Big' vs. 'Little' resilience
How the diplomatic life tests your big and little resilience each day and how you can respond
Phil McAuliffe
Apr 14, 201911 min read
Finding time for fitness
Finding time for your fitness is an act of self-care. The trick is in having the time, right?
Phil McAuliffe
Mar 31, 201910 min read
Finding your home
Where, or what, or even who is home for you?
Phil McAuliffe
Mar 17, 201910 min read
The stories we tell ourselves
We are all fantastic story creators. The stories we tell ourselves can become our truths. They're often wrong.
Phil McAuliffe
Mar 3, 20199 min read
Diplomatic spouses of the world, unite!
"Call me a trailing spouse and I will politely put you in a headlock and rearrange your pretty diplomat face"
Georgie Ryan
Feb 17, 201912 min read
Always being 'on'
It's a fact that we're never 'off' when
on a diplomatic posting. This is very damaging to your health and well-being
Phil McAuliffe
Feb 3, 201910 min read
On loneliness
Hi, my name's Phil and I'm the Lonely Diplomat. This is my story of my descent into loneliness and my way back.
Phil McAuliffe
Jan 20, 201914 min read
Say what you mean. Mean what you say.
Stop being diplomatic. Sometimes you actually need to say what you mean and mean what you say.
Phil McAuliffe
Jan 6, 20199 min read
The Lonely Diplomat: on Christmas
It is the season of goodwill to all and a time to be with family and friends. What is it about the festive season that can have us feeling h
Phil McAuliffe
Dec 16, 20189 min read
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