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the lonely diplomat
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No one else writes about the highs and lows of this diplomatic life from both the perspective of the posted diplomat AND the accompanying significant other like the lonely diplomat.

Read one, two - or binge them all - of the articles to be supported, challenged and inspired through Phil's lived experience, wisdom and insight.

They're all here for you as you live your diplomatic life and want to reconnect with yourself and the world around you.

You're not alone.

Your life audit

Are you feeding connection and starving loneliness? Let's check.

Phil McAuliffe

Apr 1, 20235 min read

On managing overwhelm

Let's explore why you and I feel so frequently overwhelmed. Our lives may depend on it.

Phil McAuliffe

Mar 4, 20236 min read

Connection and the modern diplomat

Connection is a big deal You need connection to survive Why aren’t you prioritising it?

Phil McAuliffe

Dec 3, 20228 min read

Checking our privilege

Words can mean different things in different contexts. Privilege is one of those words.

Phil McAuliffe

Aug 14, 20216 min read

On belonging

We humans - even diplomats - can hustle to feel like we belong and to feel worthy. Let's talk about that.

Phil McAuliffe

Aug 7, 202110 min read

My resilience reset

A whole lot of life has happened for us in 2020 and 2021. We need to process it in our way.

Phil McAuliffe

Jul 31, 202110 min read

Find balance to avoid burnout

You must find a balance that works for you if you are to avoid burning out

Phil McAuliffe

Aug 10, 201912 min read

On leaving diplomacy

There's nothing like a career in diplomacy. It's tough to leave. What if it's time to do something else?

Angela Pickett

Jul 6, 20198 min read

Friendship and diplomacy

Making friends and maintaining friendships can be tough when living the diplomatic life.

Phil McAuliffe

Jun 23, 20199 min read

Thrive through your mid-life crisis

Resist the sportscar, the affair or dramatic career change. Welcome your mid-life crisis and thrive.

Phil McAuliffe

May 26, 20198 min read

A clarion call to the leaders of diplomacy

I've a clear message for the leaders of diplomacy: your diplomats are struggling.

Phil McAuliffe

May 12, 20197 min read

'Finally, I can eat garlic!' Life as a diplomat's daughter

How can growing up as the child of a diplomat affect how our children view themselves and their world?

Jaqueline Benndorf

Apr 28, 20199 min read

Finding your home

Where, or what, or even who is home for you?

Phil McAuliffe

Mar 17, 201910 min read

The stories we tell ourselves

We are all fantastic story creators. The stories we tell ourselves can become our truths. They're often wrong.

Phil McAuliffe

Mar 3, 20199 min read

Say what you mean. Mean what you say.

Stop being diplomatic. Sometimes you actually need to say what you mean and mean what you say.

Phil McAuliffe

Jan 6, 20199 min read

Why are you so scared?

Why are you scared of not pleasing people? When did you become so scared? What would you do if you weren't scared?

Phil McAuliffe

Nov 18, 20188 min read

Love and diplomacy

We love what we do, but we don't do it alone. We bring our significant others and our families along for the ride - or not.

Phil McAuliffe

Oct 21, 20189 min read

On our inner critics

Our inner critics can be horrible to us. We live with them all the time. Let me introduce you to mine, Joe.

Phil McAuliffe

Oct 7, 201810 min read

Can you ever say 'no'?

Nancy Reagan had it right. We just need to say no. But can you ever say no?

Phil McAuliffe

Sep 30, 20188 min read

Are you a resilient diplomat?

Many of us mid-career diplomats are no longer resilient. We're broken.

Phil McAuliffe

Sep 23, 20188 min read

Are you using social media, or is it using you?

For diplomats, social media is a powerful tool for connection. Using it can feel like connection, but it is not connection.

Phil McAuliffe

Sep 9, 20188 min read

Are you a lonely diplomat, too?

Loneliness is not only experienced by old people. Chances are you're lonely, too.

Phil McAuliffe

Sep 2, 20184 min read

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Your life audit

On managing overwhelm

Connection and the modern diplomat

Checking our privilege

On belonging

My resilience reset

Find balance to avoid burnout

On leaving diplomacy

Friendship and diplomacy

Thrive through your mid-life crisis

A clarion call to the leaders of diplomacy

'Finally, I can eat garlic!' Life as a diplomat's daughter

Finding your home

The stories we tell ourselves

Say what you mean. Mean what you say.

Why are you so scared?

Love and diplomacy

On our inner critics

Can you ever say 'no'?

Are you a resilient diplomat?

Are you using social media, or is it using you?

Are you a lonely diplomat, too?

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